The development of love is often hindered by different obstacles in life. The first obstacle is ourselves. We begin our life with selfishness, and all that we want is for self and if there is a tendency to love, it is for one's own happiness, and one's own joy. When the question comes, "How much do you love me, and how much do I love you?" it has come to be a trading in love. "I love you, but you do not love me" is as much as to say, "I have bid so much, and I expect a return of love." This is trading in love, and trade cannot lead anywhere, because it makes one think of the self, and love is beyond that.