How to attain these things? We find that the first process was wrong, When we thought that physical things would give happiness, they only gave it for some time, but they were changeable and failed. We thought other people should be constant and our relatives also in their love and friendship for us. But they failed, because however good a person may be, he has his good and bad points. If one person was perfect, man would not see perfection in God and there would not be the ideal in life. Therefore as we are disappointed, we must seek love elsewhere.